Someone needs you...

Loneliness can't be explained sometimes... it is a state of feeling totally alone and often 'un-needed' in this fast paced world of ours. It shows up after a bridal or baby shower, a romantic wedding, when you drive home after a marvelous lunch with your best girls; when the silence of your home hits you at the door you night after night.When you cling unconsciously to that dying moments of a wonderful movie, or when you look longingly at a couple in love. You tell yourself you're alright, you're doing good; and sure you are. You are grateful to God for His many blessings and the love of family and friends...but then sometimes... you feel this gnawing emptiness... this longing to belong to someone, to be claimed by the one who loves you truly?

If you are a Lady in waiting like me, and the wait has become a solid structure that seems to have no intention of fading into oblivion.. this is for you. Somewhere out there... someone is longing to be everything to you... I pray for you today my lady in waiting, that he will reveal himself to you according to the timing of God. You are precious, you are beautiful, you are beloved... Never, ever forget that..



Sister girl, you are Everything To Somebody
Right now at this very minute
Someone is very proud of you
Someone is thinking of you
Someone cares about you
Someone misses you

Someone wants to talk to you
Someone wants to be your friend
Someone hopes you aren't in trouble
Someone wants to give you all the support you need.
Someone wants to hold your hand
Someone hopes everything turns out all right

Someone wants you to be happy
Someone wants to get very close to you
Someone wants you to spend all your life celebrating your successes
Someone wants to give you a gift
Someone think you ARE a gift
Someone hopes you are not too cold, or too hot

Someone wants to hug you
Someone loves you
Someone wants to lavish you with everything you'll ever want in life
Someone admires your strength
Someone is thinking of you and smiling
Someone wants to be your shoulder to cry on

Someone wants you to go out and have a lot of fun
Someone thinks the world of you
Someone wants to protect you
Someone would do anything for you
Someone wants you to be forgiven
Someone is grateful for your forgiveness
Someone wants you to go out and have a lot of fun
Someone thinks the world of you
Someone wants to protect you
Someone would do anything for you
Someone wants you to be forgiven
Someone is grateful for your forgiveness

Someone wants to laugh with you at all times
Someone remembers you and wishes you were there
Someone is praising God for you
Someone needs to know that your love is unconditional
Somebody values your advice
Someone wants to tell you how much he cares

Someone wants to stay up watching old movies with you
Someone wants to share his dreams with you
Someone wants to hold you in his arms
Someone wants YOU to hold him in your arms
Someone treasures your spirit
Someone wishes he could STOP time because of you

Someone praises God for your friendship and love
Someone wants you to put a little trust in him
Someone wishes that things didn't have to change
Someone loves you for who you are
Someone loves the way you make him feel
Someone wants to be with you

Someone is hoping he can grow old with you
Someone hears a song that reminds him of you
Someone wants you to know he’s are there for you
Someone is glad that you're his friend
Someone wants to be your friend
Someone stayed up all night thinking about you

Someone is alive because of you
Someone is remorseful after losing your Friendship
Someone is wishing that you would notice him
Someone wants to get to know you better
Someone believes that you are his soul mate
Someone wants to be near you

Someone misses your guidance and advice
Someone values your guidance and advice
Someone has faith in you
Someone trusts you
Someone needs your support
Someone needs you to have faith in him

Someone needs you to let him be your friend and more...

(Anonymous)

I'll do it later by Attracta Okeahialam - Abulu

An amazing article written by on of my elder sisters...

Not now.   I’ll do it later.  Maybe tomorrow.   I’ll do it when I have some time.  I’ll get to it later.  I’ll find some time

How many of you in this room have said that to yourself, your child, your spouse or significant other, your boss?   Why do we do that?  Is it due to lack of confidence, fear of failure, laziness, too much to do, finances?  

As I reflect on the things I have on the to-do-list of my life and all the things I have put off,   I have come to realize that I have wasted a lot of time planning it but not actually making moves to execute them.     

Think of the parent who never too took time to play with his child and before they knew it, the child had become a grown-up, a stranger and had no close relationship with that parent, or the person who never said I love you or paid any attention to their significant other, until it was too late and the relationship was broken beyond repair, or the unforgiving person who held a grudge until the offender had passed away and it was too late to say “I am sorry” or “I forgive you”?   Think of the person who wanted that particular job, but did not prepare for it or even apply for it?  That raise or promotion you never asked for?  That second career you never pursued?  Or that other thing you are passionate about but never make time to do?

 I have always wanted to learn how to play the piano, learn how to sew, go to Alaska, to see the Northern Lights.   I always wanted to see the Niagara Falls,  and one of the wonders of the world, The Victoria Falls, in Zambia and Zimbabwe,  East Africa (of which the explorer David Livingstone remarked when he first saw them "scenes so lovely must have been gazed upon by angels in their flight".).   I have always wanted go up the Sears Tower  in Chicago or the London Eye, in London, to see the Opera house in Sidney,  Australia, the great Wall of China, and another wonder of the world, the magnificent Taj Mahal monument, built in India by Emperor Shah Jahan in 1653, in memory of his deceased wife Queen Mumtaz.   Seems a lot, but then, not really.  These things take a lifetime

These are some of the things in my life’s’ to-do list.  Some I have not accomplished because of family responsibilities, finances, some because of fear and some because I just have not made the time.  Some I have no clue why.

One thing I have come to realize, ladies and gentlemen that time’s a passing!  Today is the day!  Now is the time to do the things that excite you, make you tick, things you are passionate about and dream about.  Time waits for no one.  Cliché but so true! 

As for me, I will wait no more.  I will accomplish the ones I can, and the rest will have to go into the dustbin of history.

 Copyright 2011

10 things I love about myself - Responding to a spark lit by Ngozi Ikeyinna and Abiola George

I became beautiful when I turned 30....at least in my own eyes! How could I explain the surge of very aggressive male attention on a girl who was previously a mouse? I lapped up the attention ( Hey I still do) and wondered at my sudden good fortune at being crowned a siren... tsk tsk...

As the euphoria of becoming a 'delectable' waned, I realized it had nothing to do with the men suddenly getting divine healing in their eyesight, but it had everything to do with my learning to love my caramel skin (brown sounds rather boring don't you think?). But most importantly, learning to love the woman within.

So when I read my laughing lady Ngozi's challenge on my friend Abiola's blog, it seemed a great way to treat myself to an award ceremony; organised by me and for me. Let's see...Where do I start...?

1. I love my eyes; the way they flash and dance with mischief; urging you to share in the private joke. I have my Dad's eyes...
2. I love the way I walk. Considering how I used to stomp about like an elephant, it is a sheer miracle that Theresa Okeahialam's whooping and posture lessons eventually paid off! The confident strides, the sometimes sensuous glide that announces 'Here I am world! Here I am!"
3. I love my legs - many thanks to my mother's genes or else I would have been ruined. For behold, my father's side of the family has "strong' legs that depict the strength of a Nigerian soldier!
4. I love my voice; the fact that I can hold a note and sing in near-perfect pitch...this is surely a gift from God...
5. The gift of writing, the ability to manipulate words and create music in written form...a skill though honed by careful mentoring at an early page... but a gift from heaven surely...
6. I love my youthfulness... the privilege to be both juvenile and adult without missing a beat...  I have often wondered why I've never felt older with each birthday...... 
7. The sound of my laughter is music to my ears... literally! When I was in my early teens, it sounded like a cross between a snort and a guffaw! I was in perpetual dismay at the unladylike sound. I honestly cannot remember when it changed... mmmh... must have been music lessons. Whew!
8. I am best friends with my body shape now. Honestly, we hated each other most of my life until one day, I realised there was no use hating my earthly packaging. I learned to love it and to my sheer surprise, it began to respond to my tender ministrations and acclamation of love! hhmmmm... curioser and curioser...
9. I love my nose. A clear gift from my mother for which I will forever be thankful for! Whew! Imagine if I had a different kind of nose...okay let's not go there.
10. I love my lips because when they open in laughter, I see my Dad... I hear his mischievous chuckle and constant ribbing and jokes. I see lips that have been set to laugh riotously, to kiss warmly, passionately; to speak kind words though oftentimes they have spoken words that wounded so deeply... (God forgive me....)

I couldn't have written this 10 years ago... amazing how life's cadence and unexpected twists and turns bring you to a place of recognition...I have come face to face with who I was born to be..a strong, beautiful, black woman who loves God and was created to just be Kelechi...